Oh the irony! My granddaughter told me this week that friendship is the greatest gift in the world. She is six years old. We were on our way to the library where she picked ten books to check out. One among them was called, “The Friendship Book”. While her brother looked at pictures of trucks and machines, I read about making friends with my granddaughter. It was beautiful basic information. We can be friends with people who are different from us in the way we look, dress and think. We can be different ages and in various stages of life. Great reminders. The biggie is how to initiate a relationship when we see someone we would like to get to know and spend time together. It is easy for extroverts when gathering with people daily at school, church, or events. For those who are resistant to make the first move it can be a challenge. I’m not entirely sure if my granddaughter identifies as shy or outgoing, but she did engage three librarians in two hours and hugged two new friends at the Chick-fil-A after lunch.
Finding a perfect friend who has all the characteristics we admire may sound like a fantasy. We want a person who is honest, loyal, fun loving, available at all hours and interesting. We want someone who still loves us with all our flaws and baggage. How do we connect when we are in a stage of life where we do not have many opportunities to meet people in a healthy environment?(I am not likely to go to a bar at this point). How can a married couple find compatible people when we are new in town? Well, churches are making a come back after the pandemic, and may be perfect for retired people who are service minded. This is where I started. I have never met anyone online, but I know there are meet up groups that play games, hike, dance, or just have coffee and talk business. There are more than a thousand people involved in Euchre groups in our town of Fishers! My grandmother used to be in a Pinochle group. My parents were in a Newcomers club. I feel certain we will find friends in addition to the dear friends we have known for over thirty years who happened to move to Indianapolis too.
Maintaining long distance friendships is another matter. You may have experienced what I have. Some people believe that I fell off the face of the earth when I left their town. There are friends I never heard from again. I am not blaming anyone of neglect; it just happens when we do not see people. With text messages and FaceTime it is easier. My Uncles thrilled me with a FaceTime call and said it was like something out of a Dick Tracey episode. I wish my family and friends were not so shy about using FaceTime. I do not care if you are in your jammies or if you have combed your hair. I have found it true with long distance relationships that we can always pick up where we left off.
I would be remiss not to mention “What a Friend We Have in Jesus.”( It is an old favorite hymn of mine). He gave his life for those he loved. He died like a soldier who fights for people they do not know. You may agree with my granddaughter, or you may argue that God’s love is the greatest gift. Either way, be open to new relationships for those who are seeking. Happy New Year!